Wednesday, July 1, 2009

The balancing act and beyond..

A dear friend of mine tells me that he does not like my writing on sad themes. He insists that I should write only on the brighter side of life. Not one to dwell always on the murky or hopeless side of life, I find his criticism unfair because life is not an only-happy experience for anyone.

If we are continually running away from the pain that life keeps on throwing at us, it depicts an unrealistic, escapist's attitude. The sorrow that we face needs to be acknowledged as much as joy needs to be accepted with gratitude. Each person, in order to stay 'emotionally sane', needs to do the balancing act between his reactions to grief and pleasure; otherwise, overcome by pain, he might lose all faith in himself, in humanity and in God. Or, expecting life to be always wonderful, he might become depressed to the extent of having suicidal thoughts.

Once the balance is reached, one tastes what I would call true joy. This happiness is not tied to the circumstances of life which we have to deal with. The true joy comes when we see beyond the mundane pleasures and gains on one hand and unfair hurts hurled at us. This peace come only when we learn to trust the grand universal plan unfolding every moment.

Doing the balancing act is easier said than done, I admit. However, should we at least not try to discover the 'kingdom of heaven' within us?


Amal Bose said...

this is exactly wat has happened to me.. almost every one has been complaining abt my stories having tragic endings.. but like u said, i just try to make it as close to real life as possible

issam said...

Very true... we need to learn to accept the harder things in life. After all that's what makes the happy moments more pleasent. :)

anupama said...

dear ayesha,
life is mixture of pains n pleasures.and i must tell you,i could write touching posts on the pains i suffered.
balance,yes,we should have,or how will we walk that miles before us?expecting a rainbow somewhere in teh sky,let us continue our journey.
happy blogging.

Ayesha Parveen said...

Hi Amal,

It is always good to see that one's experience is understood by another. I express what I feel (without being illogical in thoughts or unfair to anyone) because I have to be honest about my feelings and values.

Thanks a lot for your comment. It is very encouraging for me :)

Ayesha Parveen said...

Hi Issam,

You have correctly stated we need to accept the fact that there are difficulties in life.

Thanks for the visit and for your comment.

Best wishes :)

Ayesha Parveen said...

Hi Anu,

Hare Krishna!

I like your expression: 'expecting a rainbow somewhere in the sky'. It clearly depicts what life is all about: hoping for the best but admiting to oneself that life can play games too...

Best wishes, and thanks for your comment :)

A New Beginning said...

Ayesha, one should always write what one truely feels or our work looses its flavour. Friends guide us because they care, we might not always agree with them,tho one can find out what they really mean to say,then if we still dont agree, with due respect to them, we can carry on:)

Ayesha Parveen said...

Very true.Thanks a lot for your encouraging comment, Sana.

Anubha said...

Very nicely put Ayesha! I absolutely agree with your point of view. Everything in nature goes through cycles… the ebbs and flows that allow us to experience the ecstasy of contrast. Without the constant sway, we would feel nothing at all. Neither extreme is sustainable indefinitely; and as the pendulum swings, we are renewed!

Take care dear! :)

Nice posts you have here girl!


Ayesha Parveen said...

Hi Anubha,

Thank you very much for visiting my blog and for your appreciative comment.

Do visit again. Best wishes :)


manivannan said...

I agree with you...we should accept pain and pleasure with equanimity. As you mentioned, it's easier said than done. But just striving itself, I think, makes a difference :-)

Ayesha Parveen said...

Hi Mani!

Thanks a lot :)