Thursday, November 13, 2008

Dealing with Social Anxiety

by Ayesha Parveen 12 Nov 2008
Category: Lifestyle.This story has been read 114 times.

Social anxiety is perhaps, the single most common psychological problem. At a party with strangers, for instance, about 75% of adults feel anxiety. Most people wish they could overcome this problem and communicate with people confidently.

The following steps can help:

1. Prepare for it:
Preparation for any communicating situation is very important. Whether you are delivering a speech, going to an important social occasion or asking your boss for a raise, doing your homework will definitely help you. Some of the most polished, wonderfully delivered and spontaneous-sounding talks are the result of hours of hard work.

2. Break the ice:
What if you did not get a chance to prepare? Do not worry. When you meet someone at a social occasion, break the ice with a question or comment that conveys interest in the other person. However, we must be careful and never ask personal questions or give advice without being asked. One should never give negative comments like, “You’ve put on weight,” or “This hairstyle does not suit you.” Similarly, one should never ask for professional advice on such occasions.

3. Do not try to impress:
Instead of wondering, “Does he like me?” ask yourself, “Is he comfortable in this conversation?” Once you get into a ‘real’ conversation with someone, he will feel more friendly, more kindly disposed to you.

4. Positive response:
The way you listen gives messages about you too. Listen with interest, focusing your eyes on the speaker, unless he is deliberately avoiding eye-contact. However, one should not stare. When you are speaking or listening, your face should show some animation. Your facial expression should convey happiness in being with the person as well as show interest in what he is saying. Similarly, if someone is saying something sad, you should look serious. This helps you in adjusting your attitude to the need of the situation.

5. The right attitude:
For overcoming nervousness and shyness, a positive attitude helps a lot. Do not worry about any pronunciation or language mistake you might have made while speaking. Just be confident and polite. Know that in your own way, each one of you is the best in the world. Breathe in deeply and hold on to this belief. Success will be yours.


Ayesha Parveen said...

MSN Readers' comments:

Shantappa Jewur - Natal on 11/13/2008 12:41:12 AM
Dear Ayesha! I liked all your tips for fruitful parties, they are simple and easy to follow. What is the use of being master of all but not knowing how to leave behind the everlasting pleasant memoriies, especially in social gatherings.

sharmishtha - kolkata on 11/12/2008 8:32:09 PM
good one. very good one.

Ayesha Parveen said...

MSN Readers' comments:

Bobby Sakariah - Jeddah on 11/13/2008 11:36:41 AM
Soft skills are that matters the most in life. People however spend most of their lives in gaining hardcore skills. Good article.

ajaykumar - bangalore on 11/13/2008 2:17:24 PM
Hi Ayesha, good one as always.

nabadipa said...

Extremely useful article. I see that you are writing this new genre - self-help articles - as well. Great!