Wednesday, May 28, 2008


For tho' from out our bourne of Time and Place
The flood may bear me far,
I hope to see my Pilot face to face
When I have crost the bar.
( from Alfred Tennyson's "Crossing The Bar" )

On 24 May, lost my former-student, Shayaan Chowdhury in a car-accident. Shayaan had been so full of life that I find it hard to believe he has left this world. Parents and teachers hope to leave behind something for the younger generation, and so, when a student dies, a teacher is left with soul-searching questions. I find that Shayaan has left behind a legacy for me: appreciation of life and spontaneously reaching out to others.

The gift of life can be taken back from a person at any point of time.
So, what does a person do?
Shayaan has taught me: reach out, reach out and reach out to others with happiness and love.

The roles reversed; in life I had taught Shayaan; in death he has taught me.......

Shayaan, wherever you may be right now, please read the feelings behind these words and know that I love you very much.

Saturday, May 24, 2008

Love Stories

- by Ayesha Parveen 11 Nov 2008
Category: Others.
This story has been read 147 times.

Two sisters, both my friends, were discussing the role of love. Does love hurt or heal? Each tells a real-life story of love.

The first sister tells the story of Prerna, Snowy and Jimmy. Eight year-old Prerna, had a kitten, Jimmy. Finding Jimmy abandoned behind her house, Prerna had brought him home and loved him very much.

She already had Snowy, an exceptionally gentle cat, (more of an angel for her) who immediately accepted Jimmy. When Snowy and Jimmy would have milk from the same bowl, Jimmy, half-in-size compared to Snowy, would try to push him out. Snowy, however, was like the big-brother who forgives and understands. Meal over, Snowy would come and sit on Prerna's lap. As she would pet him affectionately, he would shut his eyes in comfort and relax. Jimmy, on the other hand, would climb up Prerna's back, jump into her lap, start playing with the buttons and lace on her dress and soon fall asleep, his front paws resting on her arm.

One day, Prerna could not find Jimmy any more. She searched the whole house and for a week, would look out of the window, hoping he would come back for the meals at least. But he never did, and with tears in her eyes, Prerna understood Jimmy would not come back to her.

After some years, Prerna moved to a new place and took Snowy with her. Snowy was very old now and would often sit at the window and look outside. Perhaps, he missed Jimmy. Then one day, unfortunately, Snowy could not be found, just like Jimmy. Prerna cried for days and the loss of her two pets, over some years, was extremely painful for her. Thus, the first sister says, “Love hurts.”

The second sister now tells about Puti and Tipu. Puti had a very difficult childhood in which the only silver-lining was Tipu, her first love. Having not got any love from her parents (they had a messed-up marriage), Puti's whole life centered round Tipu. It was he who taught the quiet girl to look forward to life and to count one's blessings. For her, he was full of laughter and sunshine.

However, life being full of twists and turns, changed for Puti when one day, Tipu suddenly had to leave the school. Those being pre-email days, Puti lost touch with him and for her life became empty, but not really, because Tipu's memory, his kindness and his words of encouragement stayed with her. Even after many years, Puti still has the picture Tipu had sketched for her.

A lot of pain has come in Puti's life, but to look for happiness and healing, all she has to do is reach inside her soul, and there, Tipu is forever with her, his bright eyes smiling. “Love heals”, says the second sister as she concludes the story.

After hearing the true-stories of Prerna and Puti, I have come to the conclusion that love does hurt, but finally heals. My belief is that both Jimmy and Snowy are happy in whatever forms they have taken and the love they had got from and given Prerna will be turned into blessings for her as well. As for Puti and Tipu, I am sure that they will find each other again, in life or beyond it.

Love is never wasted.

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

The Power Of Kind Words

- by Ayesha Parveen 11 Nov 2008
Category: Lifestyle.
This story has been read 122 times.

The power of words in our lives is immense. Often, it is seen that we hold on to the words we hear...... Mom saying, “I am sure you will be able to do it.” A friend’s words: “You have it in you to be successful”, or a child saying, “You’re my best friend.”

In conversations, if we care, we can motivate others with kind, positive words. Everyone, at some point in life, may need some encouraging words which might become his life-line. Teachers, parents, spouses, friends and even strangers play their part with words. Words can hurt as well as heal. So, why don’t we choose to heal and nurture one another with kind words? Our words of kindness might encourage someone to face life again and motivate him to learn to have faith in the essential goodness of humankind.